'I hate the way my wife dresses – I don't want to be seen in public with her'

A man has been applauded after confessing that he hates the way his wife dresses so much that he finds it embarrassing to be in public with her, and is desperate for her to get a stylist

A man has reached out for advice after becoming increasingly frustrated with his wife’s fashion choices, even admitting some things she wears make him not want to be seen in public with her.

Taking to Reddit to share his issue, he wrote: “Normally my position on my wife's outfits is she can wear whatever she wants, if she's happy then I'm happy. But her clothing choices in the last few years have been so weird, and she doesn't seem happy with them herself.”

He revealed that she often asks him what he thinks of her outfits but finds he often struggles to say anything positive about the clothes she likes, which often leads to arguments between them.

Describing her current style, he went on: “It’s a mishmash from social media ads; streetware, earth tones, pastels, minimalism, bold patterns, throwback preppy details. When I see the ads she watches, the models who are pulling off these outfits are professionally styled.

“They also use balanced combinations, like tones, baggy with fitted, formal with casual, and makeup to match. I figured she just needed time to learn a new style but it's been years. Some of the items are so out-there I don't like being with her in public, like her pastel jumpsuit with bows on it, or her woollen sweater with peekaboo sides.

“I'm sure they can look good when styled well, but she's always rushing out the door and just combines them with the first clean thing she finds.”

Adding that she’s “very sensitive to other people's opinions,” but will often criticise his outfits if she thinks he looks sloppy. He went on: “I'm not a guy who puts zero effort into my own appearance and then expects my wife to look dolled up 24/7. I have a low maintenance style, but it works because I planned it. But she seems to want low effort with maximum style."

My wife (34F) has become a fashion victim, can I do anything about this? (35M)
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“I've encouraged her to spend more money on buying from proper labels. Ideally I would just hire her a stylist and they can buy a whole new wardrobe but that would cost several thousands. I just want her to pay attention to what she buys so she stops looking like she got dressed in the dark.”

Those reading the post were in full support of the husband, with many writing that they wished they had a partner like him. One person gushed: “You're a good husband for supporting your wife! I hope she finds a style that makes her feel amazing!”

Lots of people suggested she use Pinterest to get inspiration, while others recommended Reddit communities where she could post photos and get feedback. One person proposed: “Try turning the question back on her. How do you feel? Do you like the way this fits and feels? Try to focus on how her clothes make her feel, rather than how they look.”

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