A Woman Was Shocked After Her Friend's Fiancé Called Her Out For Resting Her Boobs On The Table

Recently, on the Am I The Asshole subreddit, a woman went viral after asking if she is an asshole for resting her boobs on the table while playing games with friends.

The woman, Traditional-Lion4714, started out by explaining the situation. She said, "So basically, my group of friends (about eight total) get together every week for D&D [Dungeons & Dragons]. There are only two women in our group (including myself). It's always at my friend A's house because he's the DM [Dungeon Master] and has his fancy table and whole setup there. A has a fiancé who recently moved in with him."

"She's cool, and I have nothing against her. She just has her own group of friends and doesn't have the same interests as us or 'click' for lack of a better word with her husband's friends (us). She has recently been trying to get more into A's interests, so she has been there for our games. She doesn't play with us; she just kind of watches and plays on her phone, which is fine."

"A has a table he set up specifically for the game, one with a recessed middle so we don't have to put away our stuff at the end — he just puts a leaf over the top to protect it. Because of that, in order to move around your character, you have to lean forward or stand to be able to reach."

"Now I have big boobs. I'm not a particularly big woman; I'm in my late 20s, 5' 4'', and 155ish pounds with H-cup breasts. And yes, before you ask, I have already started the process of getting a reduction, and I cannot wait to have this weight off of me!"

"The problem is that when I lean forward to move my character, my breasts squish against the side of the table, and after a while, it gets uncomfortable and painful. So I've taken to lifting up a little and settling with my breasts sitting on the edge of the table. It doesn't push them up or call attention to them; to be honest, I don't even think it's noticeable. With the height of the chairs, I can still sit normally with them there and lean forward without it hurting my boobs. I've been doing this for months, and no one has said anything."

"But last week, A's fiancé snapped out of nowhere and accused me of trying to 'put myself on display' and told me to 'put my boobs away 'cause no one cares.' I was shocked and didn't know what she was talking about at first, and neither did anyone else until she pointed at my boobs and called attention to what I was doing."

"She got really, really upset and caused a scene, and we ended the night early. She's still mad at me and doesn't want me to come to the house anymore. I apologized and said I'd try not to do it anymore and even told her I'm going to get them reduced next year."

"She called me a 'show off' and 'slut' and is asking A to stop being friends with me. I'm at a loss. I do this all the time; I've even caught myself doing it at home with my own table without even thinking about it. AITA?"

Some users who also have larger breasts said in the comments that she was in the right and that they often do the same thing. User raisedbypoubelle said, "It’s a rare short woman with big boobs who doesn’t use table support. They’re exactly at table height! Signed - a G cup."

"I have straight up knocked a plate of food into my lap because my boobs caught the edge of it and sent it flying," user OwnNight3353 said. "Why would anyone choose that kind of embarrassment? 😭"

"If they don’t go on top of the table, the only other option is the table stabbing directly into them or putting them UNDER the table. Like, how does she realistically think the original poster can just 'put away' her boobs 😂?"

Others thought it was inappropriate for the original poster to rest her breasts on someone else's table, no matter what size. User kittykatzen1666 said, "WTF. I also have pretty good-sized boobs, and I would never dream of just slapping them on another person's table. On your own table, hell yeah, go for it. You're the asshole."

And u/EffectNo4122 felt the same way. "You're the asshole for doing that. I have G cup and would never do that. Do what you want in your own home, but be aware that other people may not be comfortable with what you think it’s OK."

Still others thought they were both in the wrong. User ViolentVoodooVixen said, "She shouldn’t be name-calling. Putting your boobs [on the table] (at any size and for whatever reason) is really tacky, though. It’s very trashy. Sorry, not sorry."

"How am I the only person in these comments that thinks what you are doing is weird? I don’t think that the other girl should have called you names or confronted you in that way, but resting your boobs on a dining table is odd— even if you have no weird intention behind it," user zoesdumbart said.

Others, like u/feminist1946, felt that the original poster had done nothing wrong and that there was probably more going on behind the fiancé's reaction. "Not the asshole. She sees you as a rival. Many women make their men get rid of their female friends. I have been called a lot of nasty names, and then comes the call that 'I can't see them anymore.'"

"As if I was interested. Blows my mind. All you can do is not do it with other women. Feel secure in yourself before creating a long-term relationship. Make sure that if there is flirting or advances from someone's man, you shut it down."

User Dittoheadforever agreed. "You're not the asshole. 'Put my boobs away'...yeah, sure...just pop them off and leave them in the car. ''Cause no one cares.' She obviously cares...Green is such an unattractive color sometimes."

"Is she going to tell A to stop being friends with all females who have features that activate her insecurities and envy?"

And user yayforvalorie noted a hypocrisy in the fiancé's call-out. "I like how she doesn't want you to 'call attention to your boobs,' but she herself did. Not the asshole."

Finally, user Significant_Dot1288 added their thoughts succinctly: "People need to get over it," they said. "It's just breasts. There's nothing to be ashamed of."

Now that you've read all this, I have to know — do you think she was in the wrong for resting her boobs on the table? Or is this something the fiancé never should have brought up in the first place?

Comments have been edited for length and clarity.